I've been resourceful and fiercely independent for as long as I can remember.
The first 3 years of my life I lived with my grandparents. My grandma was the most important person in my life from the start. With her I felt safe and loved.
When I started kindergarden my parents brought me to live with them. I was a fearful kid, and I missed my grandma .. a lot.
I got sick often .. as if my body knew that was a way to spend time with grandma because she was the one who would look after me.
Otherwise it was a pretty normal childhood until ..
.. my dad had a fallout with grandpa and decided to cut off all contact.
He never spoke to his parents again, and I wasn't allowed to see them either.
My subconscious conclusion:
- there is no unconditional love, you can't rely on anybody
- upsetting someone has catastrophic, irreversible consequences
Out came a resourceful, self-sufficient people pleaser.
Resourceful and self-sufficient helped me build my business, never asking for help and not knowing how to say No almost brought me down.
Only when I looked inside did profound changes happen on the outside.
We don't have business problems, we have personal issues that show up in our business.
