?? Playing a video game can be fun once you know the rules .. what if real life was the same?
I'm not into video games, even less when they involve combating aliens and shooting people. The few times I tried I was given brief, very basic instructions and then handed the joystick. Off I went and seconds later I'd receive a blow out of nowhere .. 50% of your life force gone .., I'd desperately try not to get “killed” while frantically trying to figure out what all the buttons on the joystick did and who I was supposed to be fighting or work together with.
When I finally thought I'd picked up how things worked (just 25% of life force left by now ..) I get hit again, from an entirely unexpected angle .. you're dead, game over.
Exhausting, stressful and not much fun.
Sometimes life feels like that. We follow the rules we're given just to realize that that doesn't protect us from getting hit. We're in defense mode, just trying to survive.
What if we found the instruction manual and really understood how the “game” works, how our minds create our reality?
Just think of a game you really love – knowing the rules well doesn't guarantee you win every time, you might still get hit or have things work out differently than you expected. But knowing how things actually work gives you a sense of control, it allows to to play to win, not just to survive, and that's fun, that's energizing.
So how do you find the “instruction manual” for life?
What if you already knew how things work? What if you were born knowing and just don't remember it or believe unhelpful stuff you've been told by the people and society around you?
What if struggling just meant that in that area of your life you're believing some stuff that simply isn't true?
What's getting us in trouble isn't not knowing, it's when we're sure we know but we're wrong.
When you don't know you're curious, you explore things with an open mind and at any moment may see something new that helps you move forward.
When you're convinced you know you don't look with open eyes, you're just scanning your surroundings for confirmation of what you already know and may well miss the solution right in front of your eyes.
When you're convinced your boss is causing your stress at work you'll try to avoid him, confront him, not get upset or whatever makes sense. You change jobs and find you don't get on with someone else at the new job, you change jobs again or .. at some point see that our experience of our boss or anything else in our life is created internally by our own mind, that our boss, or anything outside of us, has no control over the way we feel.
Any realization that brings us closer to how things actually work makes life easier, less of a struggle.
The good news is that we all have the capacity to have insights, those aha moments when all of a sudden something becomes crystal clear and we can move forward in an area where we felt stuck a second ago. All you need is remember that you have that power.
Change is just one thought away <3
